Total Deal Breakers!!

agreed that respect is the word. Cheating, violence, verbal and physical abuses total deal breakers for me as well

Doing anything disrespectful towards me is a dealbreaker. This includes cheating, violence, verbal abuse etc.

Respect is one of the most important things in a relationship.

My top 3 deal breakers are cheating, controlling/isolating and not being affectionate.

The affection thing is only because I’m a really affectionate person and like all the cuteness and cuddling and all that. All of guys are totally blank in that area or it just seems awkward lol. Basically I’ve just never been attracted to a guy that wasn’t like that, its all part of the chemistry to me.

As for cheating, I could never trust them ever. It would always linger in the back of my mind. And as stupid as it sounds I couldnt be with them or around them the same even if I wanted to be because of it. So at this point, it something I couldnt at all get my head around.

Possesiveness and trying to isolate me is my biggest deal breaker, I’ve had two guys in the past try to cut off all my friendships with other guys and a few girls that they felt were “trying to get into my head” and break us up just because they could see what they were like whilst I was still in that floaty honeymoon phase lol. One guy got way over the top when I left him, sending messages to guys I talked to and me aswell, calling me this and that for simply not wanting to be with him anymore due to his way of acting, as if I was property. For anyone that watches The Hills, he was like Spencer, that same sorta attitude. I don’t use facebook because of it, I hated that feeling that everything I wrote was being watched.

And Alice, as for cross dressing I cant see it being something that would worry me if I knew about it. I’m all about character and how people are as a person, so I worry about that much more.

i understand alot of that and agree becos of my ex bf i dont have fb but i dont think i need it i still keep in contact with ppl via email , calling or sms aswell as seeing ppl.

Violence or drug use would be definite deal breakers for me.

Alice, cross dressing would definitely not be a deal breaker, as my husband would still be the same loving and caring person and great dad that he is now. I would try to be understanding and supportive of him 🙂

I think if I entered a relationship and knew about it from the start, then it wouldn’t be a deal breaker. However, if my partner of 12 years suddenly wanted to cross dress I am not sure how I would react. It would make me question whether the last 12 years were a lie.

For years, I’ve been telling crossdressers that they should be honest up front, for exactly that reason.

Can I ask you, is your wife relationship with Alice different to her relationship with you as a male? Or does she treat you as one and the same? And sorry if i have gotten too personal – please dont answer if i have.

My wife and I have some quite clear boundaries. My wife is married to a man, not a woman. Alice is a female friend of my wife’s, not her partner. When I am Alice, we don’t even hold hands. While I’m still the same person underneath, my wife is not attracted to Alice, and I respect that.

My top 3 deal breakers are cheating, controlling/isolating and not being affectionate.

The affection thing is only because I’m a really affectionate person and like all the cuteness and cuddling and all that. All of guys are totally blank in that area or it just seems awkward lol. Basically I’ve just never been attracted to a guy that wasn’t like that, its all part of the chemistry to me.

As for cheating, I could never trust them ever. It would always linger in the back of my mind. And as stupid as it sounds I couldnt be with them or around them the same even if I wanted to be because of it. So at this point, it something I couldnt at all get my head around.

Possesiveness and trying to isolate me is my biggest deal breaker, I’ve had two guys in the past try to cut off all my friendships with other guys and a few girls that they felt were “trying to get into my head” and break us up just because they could see what they were like whilst I was still in that floaty honeymoon phase lol. One guy got way over the top when I left him, sending messages to guys I talked to and me aswell, calling me this and that for simply not wanting to be with him anymore due to his way of acting, as if I was property. For anyone that watches The Hills, he was like Spencer, that same sorta attitude. I don’t use facebook because of it, I hated that feeling that everything I wrote was being watched.

And Alice, as for cross dressing I cant see it being something that would worry me if I knew about it. I’m all about character and how people are as a person, so I worry about that much more.

Very good question Alice, as women we like to be seen as understanding, compassionate and caring, its in the makeup, but how most of us would react is something only the individual can say. Personally I would be amazed if my husband came out in that regard, he really would make a terrible transsexual, but the local waxing would make a mint. LOL

Interesting thread. I was reading on another forum that a lot of crossdressers are convinced that the majority of women wouldn’t accept a crossdresser as a partner. Would you girls consider it to be a deal breaker?

Honestly, I don’t know. I’m not in that situation, I’m in a relatively ‘average’ relationship as far as the stats go, hetero girl and boy living together, nothing out of the ordinary. I’d like to think that if my husband did reveal to me something like that I would be accepting, but there’s a part of me that’s not so sure. In any other scenario, absolutely fine with it, but in an intimate one, it confuses me. That’s just me personally, and my totally blunt honesty.

I’m having trouble thinking of deal breakers because I can’t see anything that would cause me to break up with G, physical abuse would be one, cheating would be a hard one to get past, but we’ve been through a LOT the last 5 and a half years and think we could get through pretty much anything now.

Interesting thread. I was reading on another forum that a lot of crossdressers are convinced that the majority of women wouldn’t accept a crossdresser as a partner. Would you girls consider it to be a deal breaker?

I would accept it alice 😀

i think everything has been listed as deal breakers…. but guys can greaseball their way out of arguements ….tahts what i hate especially when they play mind games …ohh and no wriggle room they r always right and it is their way or the highway!!! haha ahhh men.