In the Navy

That is aweful to hear and some men are just plain selfish!!

My boyfriend was considering to go in the navy but he told me he would break up with me !
He told me being in the navy would mean dedicating himself to the country and not to me so i understood! Then he said sorry to me and he said he is just going to be a cop and i was so thrilled to see that he balanced both with work and me!

Girls this is really upsetting for the person you know… thank you for sharing your thoughts here.. it is very upsetting for them to go through this.
I think one of the reason is that both of them cannot be with each other when their man feels he needs her most but she is not there for him (of course that is not her fault!! but really the man’s position!) and that’s why he turns to other available women while deployed there.

It’s funny coz typically they are strong mentally, physically etc and is loyal to their profession but when when it comes to being loyal to their love ones- that’s another test..

My ex neighbour/great friend, married a guy from the navy, they have now moved interstate, she moved away from her family and all that she knows. She had a child to him and spent half her life without him as he was gone six months a year, his only son never knew him and didnt want to get close to him, only because he hardly ever saw him. She was a very lonely girl doing it all on her own, when he was back, he spent most of his time at the pub with his mates. She later learnt that he cheated on her not once but with three different women whilst he worked away, she is now fighting in court to come back here as she has left her husband over this, he wont let her leave as they moved interstate and are based there, and for the sake of the child he wont let her go, even though he hardly sees his son.

Your friends boyfriend wants his cake and to eat it too, whats sad is the poor girl gave up her life to move to be with him. He is messing with her head in a cruel way, i just hope she finds it in her heart and to find the strength to leave him, he will only ruin her by playing his cruel game if she stays. I wish your friend luck and strength.

Madamebfatale so sorry for your sister, i hope she finds the strength to get through the mess.

Aw that’s awful! Especially after the move and waiting for him.
My sister got married to a guy in the army, they were together 7 years then just after the wedding he went to Iraq for 12months. She picked him and one of his troop (a girl, he’s high up in the army? don’t know the technical terms) She thought everything was fine but then it was weird when they were at home he left his email open the next morning and there were all these emails between the two talking about their new life together ect. Turns out he told the army him and my sister split whilst he was over there and had a relationship with this girl ( yes girl she was in her early 20s and he is 40) the entire time without my sister knowing. They even went on their honeymoon in the middle of it when he had his break.
Turns out its the 3rd time he has done this, and he’s after money every time ( my sisters dad is rather well off). She had moved all the way to Darwin, combined all their debt and started to pay it off. She idiotically got a loan to do this, in her name and was left with all the debt. (he had a lot more debt than her). She spoke to lawyers and cant really do anything without spending a whole heap of money she doesn’t have. He also was funnelling all the money he had into this new girls accounts so it looks like he has no money…..

All I can say is try and be there for her, some people are dogs!