Devastated

Just read this and I want to say how sorry I am Roxymisha…..it’s so sad losing a pet, they are part of the family and have their own special place. I’ve lost a few beautiful pets through the years and each one has been devastating and even though it’s been years and years, I still remember them all.
Life is empty without pets though and the day will come when you will realise how much love you still have to give to another lucky pet.
Thinking of you xxx

I am so sorry to hear about all of this. The loss of a pet really is akin to losing a family member. I still feel sad that we had to put down our dalmation a few years ago, she was such a lovely soul and a gorgeous dog, but she was suffering badly from a ear infection so it was really just a mercy to her.

I still like to think her spirit drops by to visit once in a while though.

Hi Roxymisha,

I hope you’re okay. I got all teary when I read your topic post (first time I’ve seen it as I dont get much time in the forums)
I’m really feeling for you. Animals are the best. Always there for you, never upset at you for no reason or yelling at you when they’ve had a bad day. I dont know how I’m going to deal when my little girl reaches the end of her life span.
When I was about 12 I had to make the decision to put my cat down after he got hit by a car and mum said the operation to save his back leg was too expensive. I know if I could have afforded it I would have paid ($1200). Without the operation we woul have had to wait to see if the damage was all in the one leg and if it was get it removed. He was such a little climber and hunter I couldnt do that to him let alone make him live in such pain while we waited to assess the damage! I was so distraught for so long. I wore his collar around my wrist for a month and I still have it in a box with some other small precious things.
Death of a loved one is so hard and we all go through it far too many times in our lives (starting out so young!), but it is worth it to have that time to really love them and cherish them while we have them.

Dear friends

I was not going to post this but I changed my mind this morning. Have been trying to conduct my normal life, including checking BH etc but I am now feeling quite overwhelmed.

On Thursday my beautiful, devoted pooch (Misha) had to be put down. It was only less than 9 months ago that I lost my beautiful, loving cat (Roxy). Now you know how I came up with my username on this site.

I was at peace and still am with the decision I had to make regarding Misha. He was a 14 year old silver toy poodle with numerous health issues and we were managing all of them very well. Unfortunately I knew he would not live much longer and this became apparent when he stopped eating a few days ago. It was clear that he was coming to the end of his life.

I am lucky that I have a wonderful vet who conducted the whole process with great dignity and respect. My girlfriend was with me but it was hard as I have never had to do this before.

I have the greatest admiration for vets, veterinary nurses and other carers of animals as they not only treat the animals but also have to manage the relationship with their owners. So, it is double duty.

It is very hard to be at home alone after having my two loved ones for so many years. I adopted Roxy to keep Misha company. They adored each other – slept, ate and played together. They both adored me and I am missing that unconditional love that pets provide.

Anyway, I know that it will take some time to adjust and I have beautiful memories and photos of them in my study so they are never far away.

x

i know this was so long ago, but i saw your post about Misha on another forum and being a sticky beak had to search it! Pets are the most amazing companions, i cant even explain how much i love my pets! losing a pet is the worst, i feel your pain! and second, im currently studying cert II Vet Nursing and would like to thank you so much for mentioning nurses in that post, I find nurses can get forgotten most of the time, and people dont realise how much we really do! Hope youre coping, even though its been a year, its hard to recover! xx

Thanks so much everyone I am not really good at dealing with death, especially of a pet 🙁 Roxy here has been an enormous support though and it is comforting to have someone so understanding to listen and offer advice, I appreciate so much darl, you have been awesome 🙂 I love everyone’s comments, and yes it is much better now that I have told the kids, because I had it bottled up here for a few days, as I didn’t know how to tell them, and it would break my heart every time I heard them outside calling her. Thanks to Roxy I came up with the best way of telling them and now while they still can’t quite believe she is not coming back, they still have told me they miss her very much. I thankfully don’t have to lock myself in the toilet and cry now, and talking to the kids about it kind of makes me not so sad any more too, because like I have told the kids I am sure one day we will all see each other again 🙂

Oh Mel, thank you for mentioning me on this thread. As you well know, I would like to help anyone who is going through a rough time and I am so pleased that I could offer some comfort. One needs good friends during rough periods and I have been so grateful getting to know you and the girls on this site. I could not believe how many people responded to me when I was in grief – it is a marvellous community. So very special and we should all cherish this (I am getting a little teary typing this). You are doing a great job with the kids and you know that we are all thinking of you during this time. Lots of love. x

Oh Roxy mwah, I totally agree, have met some real gems on this site, good friends for life, thanks so much darl 🙂 xxxooo

Thanks so much everyone I am not really good at dealing with death, especially of a pet 🙁 Roxy here has been an enormous support though and it is comforting to have someone so understanding to listen and offer advice, I appreciate so much darl, you have been awesome 🙂 I love everyone’s comments, and yes it is much better now that I have told the kids, because I had it bottled up here for a few days, as I didn’t know how to tell them, and it would break my heart every time I heard them outside calling her. Thanks to Roxy I came up with the best way of telling them and now while they still can’t quite believe she is not coming back, they still have told me they miss her very much. I thankfully don’t have to lock myself in the toilet and cry now, and talking to the kids about it kind of makes me not so sad any more too, because like I have told the kids I am sure one day we will all see each other again 🙂

Oh Mel, thank you for mentioning me on this thread. As you well know, I would like to help anyone who is going through a rough time and I am so pleased that I could offer some comfort. One needs good friends during rough periods and I have been so grateful getting to know you and the girls on this site. I could not believe how many people responded to me when I was in grief – it is a marvellous community. So very special and we should all cherish this (I am getting a little teary typing this). You are doing a great job with the kids and you know that we are all thinking of you during this time. Lots of love. x

Thanks so much everyone I am not really good at dealing with death, especially of a pet 🙁 Roxy here has been an enormous support though and it is comforting to have someone so understanding to listen and offer advice, I appreciate so much darl, you have been awesome 🙂 I love everyone’s comments, and yes it is much better now that I have told the kids, because I had it bottled up here for a few days, as I didn’t know how to tell them, and it would break my heart every time I heard them outside calling her. Thanks to Roxy I came up with the best way of telling them and now while they still can’t quite believe she is not coming back, they still have told me they miss her very much. I thankfully don’t have to lock myself in the toilet and cry now, and talking to the kids about it kind of makes me not so sad any more too, because like I have told the kids I am sure one day we will all see each other again 🙂

Mel, I know I already wished you all well with whats been happening with your dog passing but I do hope that it all starts to get easier for you soon. Its never easy trying to explain death to children but your a great mother and teacher so stay strong knowing that things will get better with time. Take care ♥

Mel, I am so sorry to hear of your sad loss. I feel like we are good friends even know we have never met and I really feel your pain. I know how attached we get to our pets and it is even harder when you have to help your children through it too. They are so young and innocent and it is very hard to explain to them where there pets are. I am praying for you and your children at this sad time. I will be keeping you all in my thoughts Mel.
Love Mollygirl.

Sorry to hear your sad news Mel……it is so sad when a loved family pet leaves us. It would of been so sad for you to tell the kids…kids just don’t understand these things.
just remember all the good things about your loved pet. Time does heal and it is early stages for you at the moment.