Boy caused Confusion

Anyway I don’t know if I can really give you any advice after all, because my trick is just not to get in a relationship. I’m too young and I don’t want to be tied down.

Bwoods that is great advice. Pinklolliepops you are young and carefree, don’t get too caught up in who to choose etc. If it’s meant to be it will work itself out 🙂

So true 😉

Bywood- I’m 19.
thanks for all the wonderful advice girls =D
I will totally keep you posted

Oh okay, same as me 🙂 (Well in a few days time anyway)

The reason I was wondering is because I guess when you’re young relationships tend to be less serious, and you’ve got so much life to live ahead of you, and so many people to meet! When I was in high school I could never stay in a relationship because as soon as I was in one I’d start thinking about all the people I could never date now! haha.

Anyway I don’t know if I can really give you any advice after all, because my trick is just not to get in a relationship. I’m too young and I don’t want to be tied down.

Bwoods that is great advice. Pinklolliepops you are young and carefree, don’t get too caught up in who to choose etc. If it’s meant to be it will work itself out 🙂

Bywood- I’m 19.
thanks for all the wonderful advice girls =D
I will totally keep you posted

Oh okay, same as me 🙂 (Well in a few days time anyway)

The reason I was wondering is because I guess when you’re young relationships tend to be less serious, and you’ve got so much life to live ahead of you, and so many people to meet! When I was in high school I could never stay in a relationship because as soon as I was in one I’d start thinking about all the people I could never date now! haha.

Anyway I don’t know if I can really give you any advice after all, because my trick is just not to get in a relationship. I’m too young and I don’t want to be tied down.

Bywood- I’m 19.
thanks for all the wonderful advice girls =D
I will totally keep you posted

beautystar your story has made my day!! That is such a beautiful story I’m so glad it all worked out so well for you (you too Yvette Rose) and yur husband:)

I agree that it could be just a phase and that things may be awkward but I think the fact that you’re having all these feelings for Will should be telling you something.There’s always a billion reasons not to go for it with someone but at the end of the day, if it feels right when you’re together, then it’s probably going to be okay in the long run.

I recently lost a good friend over something like this – he liked me, I kind of liked him but wasn’t sure if it was a good idea/whether it would work out and now it’s too late and I regret it more than anything because I didn’t realise how much he’d come to mean to me. I completely agree with beautystar…have a think about who you would miss most if they weren’t in your life and you’ve probably got your answer:)

keep us posted and good luck!

another test i would do is say what would you change about the guy to make them the perfect person for you. With my now husband, even back then, I couldn’t think of a thing that i would change about him…now, well thats a different story – he’d change so he’d buy more presents for me, clean the house… haha, seriously, there still isn’t anything that i would change about him. Whilst his best friend who i originally had the crush on, I wished that he was a little less controlling and more relaxed.

Do this little test on your boyfriend and your crush and it might help you make your mind up

I had a crush on a guy, who was my neighbour during the 1st year of uni, when I was dating other people. I decided to follow my heart and give it a chance with this guy as there was a lot of flirting and we hang out everyday. Now he is my fiance and I have never looked back at my decision, I did break a few hearts, but i knew what was right,

You have to think about everything lolliepops, and what decision you make you must not regret it. And every decision has risks and consequences. I hope it all works out for you, its hard but can you see a future relationship with your current bf?

x

How old are you?

When I was 17/18 I had this crush on a guy for abut 6 months. I really wanted to go out with him but didn’t have the guts to do anything about it. I started hanging around him and in the process got to know his best friend and we became really good friends. We would hang out together all the time, go to the pub just the 2 of us, ring each other most nights, yet i still ‘thought’ that i had a crush on the original guy. After a while it felt like i liked both the guys and didn’t know which one i liked more. I knew the best friend also like me, whilst the original guy I had a crush on would make moves on me at parties etc but then in the sober light of day didn’t seem interested. I eventually realised that the best friend treated me better, I was completely relaxed with him – i could imagine sitting watching tv with him and my fam but i couldnt imagine doing that with the original guy. So in the end I asked the best friend out. As soon as i was with him I lost all feelings for the original guy, and within days I was head over heals in love! We have now been together for 12 years, married for 3 and have a bub!!

I know your situation is not quite the same, but what made me post was the way you described how you feel with the guy you have a crush on. It was exactly how I felt just before I started going out with my now husband.

The only advice I can give is to think who you would be most disappointed if they weren’t in your lfe and thats prob who you should be with.

hmmm this is a hard one. I have to agree with Chicklet that it may just be a stage that could pass.

The other part that worries me is that you said he basically lives with your family. If you did break up with your boyfriend and pursued a relationship with Will and it didn’t work out this could place you and your family in an awkward situation.

Give it time and think about it – eventually you will realise what the right thing to do is.