Is there a prejudice against stay-at-home Mums?
Are you a Mum? Are you about to become a Mum?
There are so many decisions that you will be forced to make during the time that your children are in your care, but one of the first ones will be whether you are going to be a stay-at-home Mum or whether you will return to work.
This decision can be one that can divide friends and family. The pressure that is put on new parents is huge and it is not only from those who love us but often comes from society as a whole.
This week I have read two articles which imply that stay at home Mums are lazy. One article suggested that instead of resting whilst your baby is asleep that you start a blog, write an e book or learn the guitar by watching YouTube videos. Whilst these are great suggestions if you feel inclined, there is an inference that stay at home Mums are sitting around twiddling their thumbs, and one article even suggested that they are unattractive and stupid.
Where is this criticism coming from?
Unfortunately I believe that it is coming from other women. I truly don’t understand the need for women to be so critical of each other. Who cares if your friend wants to stay home and care for her children? Who cares if you want to go back to work and put the children in childcare? There is no right or wrong way. The only way is what is right for your family.
For the first year of our daughter’s life I was a stay-at-home Mum and I loved every minute of it (except the day when she decided to use the contents of her nappy to paint the walls!) I went back to work one day a week once she turned one and then stayed at home again once our son was born.
When our second child came along there was NO way I could return to work. He was an extremely ill child who spent the first 3 years of his life in and out of hospital. I was exhausted, lost about 8 kilograms but somehow managed to get through it with support from friends and family.
I can assure you that there was no time to learn to play the guitar or write a book. I was lucky if I managed to cook a meal or have clean clothes for us to wear. It wasn’t until he went to school that I was able to go back to work on a more permanent basis.
I would love to hear your views.
Do you think that stay-at-home Mums are lazy? What did you do when your children were young? Were you a stay-at-home Mum or did you return to work?