Being called ugly

Hi redlox thankyou for them tips i really am grateful and thankyou for the kind words

Jbel – you have to believe what your fiance says because he sees all of you for what you are! My partner tells me I`m attractive each day and I found it hard to believe, but if he wasn`t attracted to me physically he probably wouldn`t be with me! Do you really care about those who have told you you`re ugly? They`re wastes of time!!

I have an idea: each day, write down at least 1 thing you like about yourself and do not feel vain for doing so. Then after a few days make it 3 things, then in a week or so make it 5, etc. You can get your fiance to help if you want.

All my life i have been teased over my weight,been told that im ugly which i guess i am.I try to forget about it all but it is very hard too.My fiancee tells me that im beautiful even though i know im not.

wow, my heart goes out to all of you! i ed to be teased in prep for having brown skin and i would be isolated from the rest of the girls sometimes. but thats just made me who i am today. its just sad sometimes that people call others ugly.

It is very brave. Thankyou for trusting the BH community with your innermost thoughts and pain.
It is great that we are able to talk about these issues and emotions knowing we are free of judgement.
It is such a shame that by the time we finally realize that these people are mean and disgusting that they have already left an emotional scar that often never fully goes away.
Having heard some of your stories, I now feel like a complete sook for complaining about my experiences in school. i was alsol very fortunate that I have, and always have had a wonderful family who nurtured and embraced me for all my fireyness and outlandish sense of humour.

It is so brave of everyone to come out with their past experiences and thank you for sharing these sensitive issues with us. It`s great to hear their is a rainbow at the end of the tunnel and glad to hear people have become stronger and happier from these experiences. No one deserves this kind of treatment and I`m glad people haven`t let their bullies dictate their future life or emotions in a negative way.

sean penn is ugly but really sexy. I call it ugly beautiful it`s much better looking than traditional beauty.

Wow yeah! College was so unreal compared to high school. I detested high school for all the usual `as above `reasons. But when I went to uni it was unreal! I loved it and it wasn`t all all like school. You should still do uni if you wish that you had – it is never too late – just think of that granny that did parachuting for the first time at age 80!

Oh GG,I felt alarmed when I read what you said. When we are so young and so vunerable to be exposed to wickedness it does mentally scar you. Sometimes different things trigger memories, But i instantly bock the memories out, and lock them away in my mind, in a little black box. Yes you are very right, We all have choices in life,I dont wont to be surrounded by negativity either. I prefer to be happy, and cheery- this positive attitude is more productive!

Oh tina_cats, its good to hear you are now stronger and your journey has shown you that you can survive and get your life back. Although I wasn`t sexually abused, well I say not as a few incidents happened but I was able to avoid anything further, I have memories of 2 events but I don`t remember much – from what I do remember nothing happened – but it is possible the memory has been suppressed as I only remembered the occasions about 5 years ago (events took place when I was about 8-9 years old) But it scares me to what could have happened. But I was physically abused when I was 7 by our live in nanny – which has affected me into adulthood. I often feel guilty for no reason and I am not assertive at all (something I am working on!) I as made to feel like I was bad – which I wasn`t. My dad didn`t realise what was happening as he worked away a lot – but he must of cottoned on because one day after school she was gone and we never saw her again. But as you said – you go through your journey and hopefully you come out stronger. I am now one of the cheeriest people I know and I try not to surround myself with people who bring my mood down.