4 yrs, 2 mths ago

What is a sleep divorce?

Hey beauties,

I’m currently working on an article about ‘sleep divorce’, or how sleeping in a different bed to your partner can be beneficial for your relationship.

If this situation applies to you, and you would be open to discussing it, please comment on this post and I’ll be in touch.

x bh’s Jess

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  • 2 yrs, 10 mths ago

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  • 2 yrs, 10 mths ago

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    • 2 yrs, 10 mths ago

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      • 2 yrs, 10 mths ago

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      • 2 yrs, 10 mths ago

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  • 2 yrs, 10 mths ago

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  • 2 yrs, 10 mths ago

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  • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

    I often sneak out of bed during the night to sleep in the spare room. I am a light sleeper and hubby’s snoring can be loud, plus he also has restless leg syndrome and sometimes twitches so badly I just can’t sleep. He prefers me to stay in our bed because he finds it hard to sleep without me by his side, but some nights it’s just too much so I wait until he is sound asleep and disappear into a more peaceful surrounding, lol. I’m not ready to resort to separate rooms, but it is nice knowing I have somewhere else to sleep if need be.

    • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

      Indie I honestly doubt your husbands snoring could possibly be louder than mine! It’s a wonder we don’t get charged with disturbing the peace! All I can say is thank goodness my handful of bedtime medication makes me sleepy. But sometimes he will snore so loudly that no amount of poking and prodding will shut him up, so I get up and come down to the lounge room and end up falling asleep in the recliner. He’s bad. And I mean REALLY bad. Even the cats are offended. They give him THE LOOK!

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        Oh dear, Rose, no my hubby isn`t that loud, lol. Actually, most nights I could probably deal with the snoring, it`s the full body twitches he has when he is asleep that I really struggle with. Sometimes he`s that bad that he`ll actually give me a jump scare. No wonder he wakes up exhausted after 8 or more hours sleep.

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        OMG Indie, he really should get that checked out by a doctor. Doesn’t sound good at all.

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        Yeah, he`s been to the doctor about it and had a sleep study done. The doctor said he was the only one he has known of to roll onto their stomach with the machine on and sleep through it, lol. He still has to go back for more tests

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        Blimey!

        I will admit that my hubby isn’t as bad if he is on his side. But if he is flat on his back he’s a shocker.

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        I reckon my husband could give yours some competition! Bedroom next door is better but still can hear him, and if he`s asleep in front of the tv I can hear him upstairs! The big question is how it`s always the snorers that fall asleep first?

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        Oh, you`re so right, Lindy. My hubby can be talking to me one moment, the next he`s snoring. Drives me nuts because I sometimes struggle with insomnia and would love to fall asleep easily. In 20 years I could count on one hand how many times I have fallen asleep before him., lol

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        Haha! My hubby seems to be able to fall asleep anywhere! He will often fall asleep while watching TV. I’ll take my iPad and go to bed and watch something.

        Something that is absolutely AWESOME to block out snoring, and come to think of it, just about every other noise that you dislike (football, cricket, x box games, car racing etc etc etc)……noise cancelling headphones. Believe me beauties, you all NEED some of these! I’ve got the Bose in ear ones. They weren’t cheap, but if something happened to them I’d go out and replace them immediately. The sound quality is excellent, and it’s amazing just how much unwanted they do block out. Hubby has got the full on over ear ones. They are great too, but I personally don’t like the feeling of them completely covering my ears. He loves them.

  • 4 yrs, 2 mths ago

    My husbands snoring is getting worse, he never used to snore .
    We don’t have a spare bed and the lounge isn’t really big enough to sleep on.
    My parents sleep in separate rooms because of my dads snoring, it’s more practical for them.

  • 4 yrs, 2 mths ago

    Hi Jess!

    Honestly, from what I can see, it is inevitable as people age.
    My parents have not slept in the same bedroom for about 15 years or so (Mum is 60, Dad is 65) As Dad got older his snoring became unbearable Mum simply couldn’t stand it hahaha. And of course when she hit menopause she was in all sorts of strife with night sweats and temperature control problems.

    My husband and I share a bed. But one thing that happened almost immediately was that we didn’t share a quilt! We both love to cocoon ourselves and there was no way we would be able to share a quilt. So we had a ‘quilt divorce’

    Most people thought it weird and raised an eyebrow in a way that seemed to question how much we loved one another, but that is ridiculous! We both sleep better. Whether you share a bed, a bedroom or even a quilt is no reflection on the depth of love two people have for one another. Don’t be afraid to make the move just because you are concerned about what others think. You two know your relationship and what is best for it.

    x

    • 4 yrs, 2 mths ago

      YES YES YES! We definitely need a quilt divorce! Hubby gets too hot, and I really feel the cold. Never thought of that before. Sounds perfect!

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        do it!
        do it!
        do it!

        Again, remember, it has nothing to do with the outside worlds perceptions of “”how much”” you love one another 🙂
        x

    • 4 yrs, 2 mths ago

      I think I need a quilt divorce with hubby! He always says it`s too hot and he sweats heaps too.

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        Lol, I`m with you on that one Fifi_m. I`m always cold and hubby is always hot so lately we have been going through a quilt divorce hahaha.

      • 4 yrs, 2 mths ago

        hehehe
        Do it 🙂
        We both have different types of quilts to suit our own needs.
        And it definitely does not mean that you love one another less, in fact, think about it this way: one less trivial thing to have any tension over in a relationship! There are HEAPS more important things than disagreeing on a quilt 🙂

        TREAT YOURSELF TO YOUR DREAM QUILT FIFI!! hehehe
        x

      • 4 yrs, 2 mths ago

        You might be interested to know that 2 quilts on the same mattress is actually the norm in Germany. I heard about it recently and though it was genius

      • 4 yrs, 1 mth ago

        That is so great to know! Germans are ahead on the learning curve on this!
        Thank you Nicoler112 🙂

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