Young Mums

You should be excited, well done and good luck for the rest of your pregnancy!!

i am getting excited i am almost 16 weeks

well i havent spoken to her since sunday and do not plan too…

She sounds set in her ways and sorry for you there is no way she will ever change for you or anyone else. I guess the best advice I could give you would be just to shut off when she has a go at you. Try (and I know it is hard) to not let her get to you, coz people like that seem to thrive on making everyone else miserable. Good luck Sharna you will make the right decisions, and as you say you will also learn from your own mistakes, not anyone elses. Mabey the new granny will pull her back a peg or two when she realizes what a joy it is to have a new baby in her life.

the unfortunate thing is my mum suffers from a condition called
cannot listen to anyone and must butt in all the time.!

Sharna, there is no doubt in the world that she is wrong, about the cot and about interferring, my point was that you shouldnt need to justify your decisions with her, I guess what I mean is that by debating it with her you are allowing her to have her say. I just think in this case, and I know it works with my mum its better to cut them off with a “”thanks for that, I`ll think about it”” – they really cant respond to that.

she believe i was “”stupid”” to think that the 20+ year old cot could be a hazard….
there are safety regulations for a reason.
so what if something happened to my child in that cot, who pays for all the medical bills.
i am 27, she treats me like i am 7 and incapable of making any decisions for myself.

there was no advice!
she was pointing out my view point was wrong!
it annoys the f**k out of me, because i think it isnt fair
to shoot down another persons opinion especially when it has nothing
to do with the other party….

Oh you poor girl. Mums are put on this earth to test us! She just wants to help because she loves you and wants the best for you, she just goes about it the wrong way! A bit of advice to take or leave…just say “”Oh thanks mum, I`ll give it some thought”” and do what you want. I also have a theory, I think mums believe that because they made you, they own you!
And Sharna, it is great that they are testing you to ensure you and baby are safe. You have a lovely partner, you are young and about to enjoy what will probably be the best time of your life. And pimples go away.

yeah i just wish she would listen to me, but she doesnt she had a go at me for wanting to find out the gender of our child, where we chose to have our chilld, and how long i am taking off, it her eyes i do everything wrong, and nick does everything right. I have had enough of her bad mouthing my dad to me and expecting for me to take it, i am really close to my dad and it isnt fair she puts this strain on me while i am pregnant and think it is okay to treat me with such disrespect. i did tell her she was the reason i moved out that she didnt let me make my own decisions, so what if i make mistakes that way i learn…. gonna cry again.

i dont want to put my childs life in danger at any risk, all she is thinking about is the all mighty dollar