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Oh yes I think they all go through that stage, the toilet is the worst, you have to go with the door open otherwise they will be on the other side of the door screaming and trying to get in, lol.

Hi Elaine

Glad to hear you got a nice haircut! Sorry you weren’t able to enjoy it though 🙁 But at least now you have freshly cut hair!

We’re actually heading to Tresillian tomorrow 🙂 We’ll be there for a few days and I hope we can get some sleep and settling stuff happening so I can start getting more sleep and not feel exhausted all the time.

I used to find it hard to relax when the kids weren’t around either but I forced myself because I knew I couldn’t be tied to them or them to me forever. It just wasn’t healthy. Jayden is being very difficult at the moment being clingy and wanting me all the time which is nice in some ways but annoying in others. He even tries to follow me to the toilet! And he’s still waking at night 🙁

Oh well hopefully we can get some help with all that.

Take care Elaine and will let you know how our stay at Tresillian goes!

Jess

Hi Elaine, I am glad you were able to have a bit of pampering time, even if it was really short lived. I wouldn’t worry about when Cayla wakes up, if she sleeps until 8.30 and that keeps everyone happy, so be it! I think it is best to let babies set their own routine, especially when they are still so young. I hope you have lots of good nights from here on in. xxxxx

I totally understand when they are with you 24/7 all you do is wish for a break but when they are not with you, then you constantly worry about them and if everything is ok. I am so the same, the first time is the worst though. My first time ever away from my first born was when I went into hospital the following year to have my second, lol, I couldn’t get home soon enough. The only other time I have been away was a trip to brissy last year and honestly I should have had the time of my life but I ended up feeling sick with worry about the kids and didn’t enjoy myself one little bit, I was much happier when I got home, lol. It is a sad situation, haha, nobody to blame but myself I say, lol, hopefully I can get over it one day and learn to have a bit of a life for myself as well. I am sure it gets easier as they get older though.
Good on you for getting your hair done, you go girl 🙂

Elaine, I’m so glad you were treated with a hairdresser’s appointment. You need to reward yourself sometimes!!
As for your question about when is an appropriate awake time for a baby, seriously, just do what ever works for you. Babies often make their own routine’s. Hopefully, this will mean you’ll be able to sleep in more, too!!
Take care, darl. XX

Hey girls thanks again for your kind words!!!

Yes mel i can definatly relate to having no family, it sucks big time!! Im always telling my sister to appreciate my mum more as she is always there for my sis and taking her kids all the time. It must be so good to be able to do that!
I have Callum in daycare once a week, cant afford any more than that as its 83 a day and we dont get benefits or tax rebates etc.
I cant put cayla in yet as she still wont take a bottle!!

My partner treated me to an extremely badly needed haircut and he had cayla on his own for the first time ever, he didnt recognise her tired signs and she got so worked up that only the boob would calm her so i had to chuck her under the cape and feed her while they cut my hair!!!
It pee’d me off a bit thinking jeez can i not leave for 2hrs without a crisis happening but then i got over it and was just happy and appreciative that i finally had a new haircut!!
It was a bit of a wake up call for me! I was nearly having panic attacks stressing that she would give him a hard time i really couldnt relax for 2 seconds, i always thought i would enjoy getting away for a little while!!

So to answer your question jessie, no i dont really have anyone to take her, but even if i did i dont know that it would do me any good with the panic attacks!!

Were back to hospital this monday for more kidney tests, then on tues (if all goes well on mon) i will be trying a diff routine with her that one of my friends was given from tresillian (with a few tweeks!!)
Have u any news on tresillian jessie?

Also, just a quick q, i havnt been sleeping lately so wen callum slept in this morn i stayed in bed and let cayla sleep til 8.30am (i usually wake her at 8) and im not sure if it was that but she had a really good day today!! Im wondering if shhes just been tired all the time!!
Is 8.30 too late for a baby to start her day?All the professionals say 6-7!! but she functions so much better sleepin in!! and she goe down to bed at 7pm, on a good night only waking at 11pm and 3pm for feeds (bad nyts every half hr urgh!!)

Hope you guys r keepin well, havnt been able to get on properly lately!!

In my area it is 15 months, phew, lol, they go twice a week, it costs me a lot but so worth it for my peace of mind 😉

We’ve been trying to get Jayden into daycare for ages but they don’t have anything in our area for under twos 🙁

Jess

I wish I had an offer like that, lol. Thank heavens for daycare which I was quick to enroll them both into as soon as they turned 15 months. They were never without me for the first 15 months of their lives, ahhh the joys of living away from any family, which I am sure elaine can relate too 🙁

Mel is right, sometimes you have to go against the norm and do what’s right for you and what works!

I hope you are doing ok Elaine. As Mel said, try and get some me time a couple times a week, even if it’s a cuppa or a shower when the kids are asleep. Can you leave them with someone for an hour so you can take some time out? I’ve been offered this but haven’t taken it up yet and I really should. Lucky for me Jayden usually sleeps well during the afternoon so I can get a sleep myself or at least rest, or have a long bath like I did the other day.

Hang in there honey, we’re all behind you and I know you’ll get there!

HUGS

Jess