It's okay if there's nothing, lol... feel free just to rant
Good on you scent I understand completely I am the jealous type too which is why I don't have a permanent partner now, my jealousy came from my ex of over 10 years who cheated on me all the time and now I just can't bring myself to trust any man at all, I get suspicious all the time and know that it is my problem but it is not something I am ready to let go of. When you have been hurt as badly as I was by a man I think it doesn't leave much hope for the future, lol. My kids dad was not unfaithful that I am aware of but we use to constantly fight because I didn't want him going anywhere without me, we ended up getting jack of the arguments and decided it was better for the kids if we didn't remain living together and it still doesn't stop me wondering what he is doing and who with, lol. I think once you have been burnt it is really hard to overcome and scent you are doing so well darl, I take my hat off to you :)
Hi Scent, Mel, thanks for sharing your story, i have tried to point out to her, that its ridiculous and immature the way she carries on, especially when she's had a few drinks, i have seen it
and have had to listen to it, she really gets worked up, and im the one that has to try calming her down, cause then it makes me upset, and 2 minutes later they are at it again. Don't get me wrong i do like her, there are other factors that have been upsetting me regarding her. She also doesn't show much affection, to my son, and even when im trying to calm her down, i usually put my arm around her, and she seems uncomfortable. Her mum is just the same, when someone is crying or upset, they don't know what to say or do, me, well i try to comfort people. Her mum did tell me that she was like her daughter when she was younger. I know my son would not cheat on her, but i know that it could change, she needs to give him some space. I know im sick of it, i nearly told her to go home the other day, but i restrained my self. I know what im like when things get on top of me, and believe i have put up with a hell of crap for a long time. I just don't want to be stressing all the time, im getting older, and want to improve my life, and have some happiness for myself. I will try again and sit her down and try talking about it. Sounds like you had a pretty difficult time with your insecurities Scent, im happy to read you have overcome some of those hurdles.
Mel, i also know what you have been through, and i think you are a very strong women, and independent, i think you'll know when the time comes, to get into a relationship again.
I really appreciate your comments, thanks for sharing. cheers
Chillies, you really are having a hard time with your son's girlfriend. It's a shame she won't listen to you. I hope things get better in their relationship, or, I hate to say this, but even end things, as it's no way to live for both parties. Plus I'm sure you have enough dramas in your life, without this added stress!
Mel, thanks for sharing your story, as I was so close to deleting my post as I thought that no one would really understand where I was coming from. It's horrible for the person on the other end of jealousy, but, as you know, it is hard being the jealous peron because it just eats you up inside, and then have to deal with guilt. As the wise Chillies said,I'm sure the right man will come along for you, and truly appreciate the lovely person you are. You deserve it, darl.
HC, i think u have a right as ur son's mother to forbid him to see her anymore!! (if shes reallyh pushing u to ur limit) but how olds ur son?
Scent, Mel, u girls seem like u've been through a lot so - huggg - and i hope ur lives will just get better (as you's deserve it)
Scent, thank you so much for not deleting your story, im really glad that you didn't, and you know why, cause it takes a lot of guts for you to reply, both you and Mel, lots and lots of times i have wanted to respond to stories and messages. I get so paranoid responding, i think, people will probably think im an idiot for writing what i write, truly. Like i understand and sometimes i feel your pain, and i wish i could just hop in my car ( not working at the moment ) and just come over for a chat, you know what i mean. Iam so glad you guys are here and i can actually talk and let it all out, thanks so much for your support.
Veronica you and Bq and a couple more of you young girls, you amaze me, i just think you guys are great, you have something nice to say all the time, it doesnt matter what age difference there, between us, i have a great deal of respect for you. Your parents should be proud of you.
My sons are 23 and 25 Veronica.
Thanks HC for the compliments but umm NOOOOO my parents are NOT proud of me. So what if I got a trophy in school in nearly every year and I got Dux in yr 6? They dont give a SHIT about me. I hate them like hell. im glad im in the right thread. i need to let off some steam. my dad always says 'even if u became the queen i wouldnt worship you'.
Just before i go to my dad "Hey dad can u drive me to the movies i need to be there at 1:30 im meeting my friends outside Hoyts" and he fully chucked a huge spaz at me. (Like it was short notice, i never listen to him, i never do anything, blah blah) and i cried lol coz he just pisses me off soo much. just coz all my other friend's dads would say 'yeah sure'. he has to make such a huge scene just coz i want him to drive me somewhere 5 mins away..
He honestly wouldnt care if i died. and i dont care if he died either. dam i got panda eyes lol well im gonna put my makeup on again grr
and to make things worse, i was listening to 'The Best Day' by Taylor Swift and its about her and her AMAZING dad. im so god dam jealous..
Still have not got my car back ? blood holden trust them to stop making parts .
Thanks for the encouragement scent and chilli, I am not really interested in anyone atm but if it happens I have to overcome my fears, coz that is what eats me up, don't get me wrong this has made me a really strong person, I would probably end up ripping off the balls of the next bloke who ever cheated on me, haha but for now I am just so happy with my kids. Hell half the time I still feel like I am in a relationship when the kids dad drops in, we still fight like a married couple, LOL.
Veronicaa I hope your relationship with your parents improves over time, most teenage girls fight with their parents, but I am sure deep down they really do care about you darl :)
Thx Mel. They will probs only care about me if I get injured heaps like maybe hit by a car or something. Otherwise, they would not care about me. Seriously our whole family just yells and swears at each other all the time... our familiy is so corrupt hahha im surprised im not an orphan yet..
Hi Veronica, i used to fight with my parents when i was young, especially my dad, he was very strict, and i got a couple of beltings, i was lucky if i was allowed to go to the pools. I would never ever say, i hated my parents, as i grew older i realized why he was so strict, they are only looking out for you, if they didn't care about you, youd be running the streets, and we would be without your company on BH. I thought i knew everything when i was young, and i wished i had listened to my parents then, cause i never thought my life would end up the way it has.Anyway, maybe you can sit and have a good chat with either your mum or dad, and explain how you feel, don't start yelling though,ok, and don't worry you have plenty of years ahead to enjoy yourself. Try not to say or think that they hate you, or you hate them. Hate is a really horrible word. I hope things get better for you too, take care.
I agree hot chillies. I used to fight with my mum all the time when i was younger. I moved out of home when i was 17 (soon as i finished school) and since then we have gotten on so much better. Im 21 now and i realise now that i wasnt always the nicest person to her and appreciate her alot more now. Mum and Dad also used to fight alot. I know now that it was all because of money. Bringing up 4 kids is pretty hard. They now have the best relationship and its kinda weird when i see them cuddle etc cause i never saw that when i was living at home. I think everyone goes through the same sorta things when they are younger with their parents. I guess its all about growing up.
Being sooo single while all my mates are getting married
Chillies, you are so lovely. I wish all us BH girls lived closer so we could catch up, sometimes it's hard to get across what I'm really trying to say through typed words.
Veronica, I'm sorry you are having such a hard time at home, darl. I will add that I'm sure your parents love you, even if they're not showing it in ways that you can't see.
Just lost my job :( now, THAT sucks :(
Tahnks soo much HC, BlondieEmz and Scent for ur stories and support<33
Well I was meant to go to my music lesson at 4:30pm today but my dad was angry at me for something so he said no im not driving u.
Um... clearly he doesnt kno my mum has to pay $129 i think a term and she cant get a refund.
Dude hes the biggest money waster he buys junk all the time, but if i pick up an item at the shop to show my mum, he chucks a hugeee sike at me for wasting money, then chucks a massivee sike at my mum for spoiling us and spending money on me and my bro all the time. Hes sooo weirdddd argh thanks for ur support girls but my dad is certainly a very different dad. VERY different. I dont even want to call him my dad, coz he had other children with another wife. Eww now the other kids are in their 40's i think and my dad lovesss them to death (while honestly hating my Mum, my bro and me). Also, wat im also pissed off about is that my dad should be my grandpa grr hes so friggen embarrassing . Ive never told anyone this coz its so embarrassing. Omgg FML.
(sorry for all this )
Aw beatthewagon :'(
what happened?? also where did u work if u dont mind me asking?
GL finding another job though :)
Sorry to hear beatthewagon! What happend? Hope nothing dodgey. Hopefully there will be some positive out of that negative, like finding a better job more money and being happier in it? Good luck!
I hear you Shopaholic! Everyone I know seems to be getting married and then they start firing questions at you too! I'm in a relationship but it doesn't mean you also have to get married! Grrr
At the moment being stuck at home and not able to get out of bed without throwing up. That's the worst thing about being sick too. I can't stand lying down and not doing anything, but as soon as I try to move ... ergh feel like hurling again. My own fault too. Instead of taking it easy when I started getting fluey, I just ignored it and now I'm lying in bed on my laptop feeling sorry for myself.
Ah well, at least the silver lining is my partner is being very attentive and doing anything I want him too!
Oh No Hachoo, I hope you get well soon darl! Take care of yourself..... â™¥
Thanks Fifi .. I've taken just taken some ginger tablets, so hope they will help as can't get an appointment with the GP til monday, but if it get worse before then, I can always call the after hours service and get one to visit me at home and give me one of those anti-vomiting injections in the bum!
your situation is a really hard one. 2 main scenarios i can see for the girlfriend are
if she's a similar age to your son then her issues shouldn't run so deep that she can't move past them..........................or am i just too pragmatic?
i guess ultimately all you can do is support your son, as you seem to do and encourage him to regain control of his own life. if that situation were reveresed he'd be labelled 'emotionally abusive', makes me wonder why women have different standards.
the other thing is, you can only control your own feelings and the way it impacts upon you personally, which can be soooooooooo frustrating sometimes, but you need to look after yourself emotionally in this as well because you can probably see your son getting really hurt which will potentially leave him with 'issues'.
anyway, good luck to you, i hope he finds someone that truely makes him happy.
Awww Hachoo you'll feel better in no time babe!! :))))))
Thanks Veronicaa hun :)
Been couple of hours or so since I took the ginger tablets and must say they really have helped. Am still sneezy and coughing and feeling yick but the vomiting is gone and nausea rather mild, so that's perked my mood up
I highly enjoyed being able to add this to my daily skincare routine, one extra step, but worth it!
After the first use, my skin felt hydrated.
My skin feels well moisturised after a dry day, but can feel a little sticky if it is been too humid or if I am a bit oily that day.
My skin feels well moisturised after a dry day, but can feel a little sticky if its been too humid or if I'm a bit oily that day.
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