Moving when older
Hi Beauties,
As many of you are aware my mum passed away last year and when I moved to this amazing address I planned it would only be for a short time. Seventeen years later, as mum lived to almost 107 (6 days short) it was time to move on. No more reason to stay here. Seeing the packing up of mum’s belongings made me realise that my children don’t want the stuff that I have been keeping , who knows why – I didn’t even need or use a lot of this stuff!
Finally my property sold after being on the market for 6 months at probably the worst time. During that time I had boxes of stuff belonging to my mum which for me was too soon to even consider looking at. Also, while the property was for viewing, it is impossible to start to sort out stuff. I had boxes belonging to my mother, stored cots, boxes, bikes, pram, toys, clothes, other household stuff all belonging to my daughter. A double garage that could only just fit one car and at a squeeze a second car if you move stuff around. I also have a large storeroom filled to the door. Also a 3 br 2 bathroom unit and that was filled to capacity with beds, desks, bookshelves and chairs. I am only 1 person and most of this other stuff was for when family occasionally came to stay. Since mum passed that hasn’t happened.
I have been decluttering now for just over 6 weeks and only have 3.5 weeks left to get rid of everything that this one older lady does not need. I have booked a storage facility, organised a removalist truck and listed my unwanted possessions for sale. Some stuff is snapped quickly and other stuff just sits and haunts me. The charity stores are full of glassware and clothing so I have listed a ‘garage sale’ and happy to sell anything for as low as 50 cents and if that is too much then it can be free – which is what I get if it goes to charity or land fill. I just don’t like waste. All the hints on packing and labelling have been printed and piles of paper are on the floor as ‘to do’.
Every time I open a cupboard and hope there is little left, it still looks full. I don’t even have a new final destination in place. This move will be my last so I have to be certain where I move to will be where I will be happy for ‘me time now’. At present my plan is store what I don’t need for clothing or personal care and DRIVE to Qld to stay with my friend and look around up there even though I have put my name in an over 55 retirement village setting near my daughter for a 1 br unit. No more visitors staying! I am feeling quite overwhelmed as I am always organised and have a definite end result but this time I am just floating along. I am letting go of responsibilities as I am not the only adult who needs to deal with stuff.
Yesterday was my first ME day at BH Glosscars even though I had an AGM that I should have been at. Got there – it was a mess, auditors were confused even though I left clear notes. Lunch wasn’t ordered, drinks weren’t provided. I sorted it all within 2 minutes of arriving, and I even phoned ahead and ordered my lunch, which none of the attendees thought to ask any staff how to do that. grrr
I am looking forward to just being a gypsy without responsibilities and no one to look after except me. Go and do what and where I want and RELAX!
The worst thing about this move is no one is helping me as my daughter just had a new baby, my son has hurt his back badly so don’t want that worse, and as everyone knows – friends seem to have a very busy life ahead at this time. That’s OK. I am organised, I can do this on my own.
Good bye my lovely view, even on a cloudy day but I have all the photos for my memories here.
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