Love talk with Liv: 5 ways to help you reach orgasm
Wham, bam, thank you ma’am.
Is that the phrase you’d use to sum up your sex life?
If you’re nodding along sheepishly right now, know that you’re not alone. Durex’s latest Wellbeing Global Survey found that only 57 per cent of Aussies are always or almost always experiencing an orgasm during intercourse. Woah.
This is a worrying statistic, not only because women are often the ones being left at the station, but think of the guy’s egos, too!
Discover five ways to help ensure you arrive at the station every single time.
#1: decide what you like
Odds are as a woman you’ll either be more responsive to clitoral stimulation or penetration. Decide what it is that really gets your heart rate going and then explore ways to further the sensation. If you thoroughly enjoy the penetration side of things, try using Durex Mutual Climax Condoms, which are ribbed and dotted and feature a special lubricant that’s designed to help pleasure ladies during intercourse. If you’re more into clitoral stimulation, get your guy to to focus on stroking that area first (either with his hands, or the condom) before you get down to business.
#2: speak up
Once you’ve worked out what works best for you, make sure to communicate with your man. Remember, he’s not a mind reader and he definitely wants to get you across the line, so when it feels good let him know and if it’s not working for you, suggest something else.
#3: begin with a bubble bath
Reaching orgasm is as much mental as it is physical. It doesn’t matter how much your guy does for you, if you’re not in the right frame of mind it just won’t happen. Before playtime, make sure you relieve any stress or tension that’s weighing you down by relaxing in a bubble bath or enjoying some ‘you time’.
#4: incorporate a toy
If you and your fella want to ‘up the ante’ a little, why not try incorporating a toy into your playtime? The LELO Liv pleasure object can sit snuggly over the top of your vagina, resting the tip on your clitoris during intercourse so that it doesn’t interfere and helps to bring pleasurable sensations internally and externally at the same time. The LELO Liv is made from body safe silicone and features five stimulation mode, so that you can go at your own pace.
#5: become someone else for a night
Have you ever thought of dressing up for a night? Becoming a different character can help you leave your own worries and cares to one side and focus on the moment. Femplay Dreamgirl Naughty Nurse Costume with Cap ($49.95, femplay.com.au/women/sexy-lingerie.htm) allows you to feel sexy (by showing off your best assets) and to add a bit of spice to your relationship, especially if you feel like it could do with a shake up.
What are your top tips for feeling more intimate with your partner, or to make sure you're in the mood for play time?