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Aug 31, 2014
Mistake
TheUglyDuckling
88 posts

Topic: Health & wellbeing / My pending relationship failure

Hi Ugly Duckling! I’ve been following this thread silently as well and in my head I have replied countless times but never had the courage to write it. I know that by replying I will have to share personal details that I’m not comfortable to talk about online but hopefully my story will help you and others.
On your first post, you mentioned your relationship problems especially your husband having a hard time adjusting to a new city and you losing your job after just getting married.
I’d like to share my story for you to see it in a different view as your situation is somewhat like mine but the other way around.
When I came here to Australia almost 3 years ago, I was able to get work in just one month but my husband unfortunately haven’t had permanent work until now. It’s very hard for the two of us, adjusting as a newly married couple, husband getting frustrated, me trying to cope to a very new environment and not to mention my grandparents dying within a year of me coming here.
It was very hard financially and emotionally! There were arguments and loneliness. It can get very frustrating especially when you’re always confronted with expenses and your pay is gone before you can even touch it. That’s when you want help from your partner as you just feel very drained trying to keep up with everything. There were arguments and even came to a point that we both just wanted out. We only lasted a night apart and decided we’ll battle this through together. For every frustration though, I can see that he does try to make up for his misgivings. Simple things that makes the unbearable bearable like he’ll prepare my breakfast and lunch bag if I’m running late. Letting himself be my sponge when I have to vent out all the stress I get from work. Telling me how much he appreciates everything I’m doing. Little things that makes me appreciate him as well and keeps me strong to stand by with him during tough times.
He has now also developed a full blown depression where he gets panic attacks and can last for days or hours and can happen any day any where. For someone who hasn’t been exposed to this kind of illness, it’s very scary and trying to be strong for your other half is very hard. This monster is very real and you need a partner that’s willing to be educated and understanding enough to help you get through every bad episode.
And funny enough, the mental abuse you’re experiencing made me remember my ex who can still give me shivers just thinking of him. Being told you’re not good enough regularly can really dampen your self-esteem. I’m a fun loving person but with him I really changed to the point that I’m so scared to even say or do the wrong thing when I’m with him. I sticked with him for a year thinking he needs me and his life will be a lot worse if I leave him. I was young and naïve and didn’t realize he was just manipulating me right from the start. I wished I listened to my gut instincts right from the start and saved myself from losing my identity. It took me a year to recover and believe in myself again.
So that’s my story to tell, only you can tell if the mental abuse you’re getting is something you have to get away from as soon as you can or if it’s a result of all the stress you two are experiencing at the moment and something that you can still work on.
We do say things that we wished we didn’t say when we’re angry but it’s different when the other person just wants to “kick you when you’re already down.”
Listen to your heart and it’s best to listen to it when you’re alone and when you’re in a calm and peaceful mood.
You do go to counselling together so it may mean that he’s willing to make things work between the two of you. They say communication is the key but listen to the unspoken words and look for those unnoticed acts that can be acts of kindness and love from him that you just can’t see at the moment as you’re currently blinded with sadness and frustration.
I do wish you well and know that your BH family is here caring for you.
Lastly, I suggest ARCVic if you want someone to talk to. They’re very good and actually listens to you and gives you helpful advice when it comes to anxiety. we had bad experiences with Lifeline but ARCVic is really good and even sent us information how to cope with panic attacks.
If you’re in Victoria, they offer support groups that can be really helpful for you.

http://www.arcvic.org.au/

Sorry, for the very long reply but I hope this has some value to you and to those who took the time to read this post.

Hey Smiling (sorry, I couldn’t see the rest of your BH name). Thank you so much for taking a deep breath, being a part of this forum and sharing your story with us. The toughest part in both our (as in you and I) ventures is the adjusting to a new life in a marriage, our husband’s frustration, your adjustment to a new environment, grief and all of a sudden WHAM! It’s one big mess.

Your husband has (I assume) acknowledges his depression and anxiety, a very real and scary issue, which is the biggest leap of all. I’m there, my Mr Man is not. We are only at the very beginning of our mess, and I recognise it’s going to get tougher if we are to repair. When I look at the series of events on the screen, I can only say it lends a whole new perspective (at least, it has for me). And in retrospect, when you look back on these events that has led me to today, I could see it all culminating to this point of disaster, however I had no control over the behaviours of my husband. And ironically, I’m okay with that part, it’s the consequences of the poor behaviour I’m not okay with. But I’m still here trying to understand, to see whether it is redeemable. You and your husband are still there, you’re working with it and through it every day, with very scary issues that peak and trough.

You and your husband are an inspiration for those who think marriage in these times are just like in the movies, that it’s meant to be easy, that the first couple of years are all just gorgeous. You have provided realism to your love story because despite your hard times you both still stuck it through and you’re still working on it. And I have nothing but the deepest respect, admiration and thanks for you taking that breath and sharing. It validates my choice to wait as I get my strength back to see whether this is something I can, apologies, we can salvage.

To give everyone an update on what’s been going on lately, Mr Man has secured a job with my help, and I am very proud of him. His confidence in himself is low but I know he can do this. It is absolutely what he needs for himself. He also gave me a sincere apology this week however he still hadn’t realised exactly why I was angry and upset, so I shared that with him (as succinctly as I could without getting too emotional, which was admittedly very difficult). We are still in separate bedrooms, even though he feels now he has apologised that should wipe the slate clean. As for me, I’m still taking every day as it comes. My darling dog is with me every night, she sits with me even as I type. I try to do something positive every day (read, catch up with a friend, home mani, baths, candles, walks, etc.) to make me feel good about me as a person. Sleep still eludes me, but hey, you’ve got to have a goal.

Thank you Smiling for taking a leap. I hope you and your husband are loving Victoria. And if your husband has one of those moments at home, my hot tip (and it’s a weird one) is to keep two large metal spoons in the freezer. When the moment strikes, put them on your face or pulse points. It’s a quick shock to the system and helps to regulate your temperature without dousing the body in cold water, or using anything that may irritate the skin. Plus they’re easy to clean and don’t take up much room.

Hugs x

Aug 31, 2014
Mistake
TheUglyDuckling
88 posts

Topic: Help! I’ve got a beauty dilemma / Disney Princess themed party

So I’ve been invited to ANOTHER dress up party. This time it’s disney princesses.

I want to go as snow white or Belle, but I want to DIY the costume (As easily as possible, though)

Any ideas for easy DIY costumes?

YouTube and Pinterest would be a great starting point for DIY ideas. The other place to help get you started is good old Spotlight with basic party kits you can build from so it doesn’t seem like such a daunting task.

Best of luck!

Aug 31, 2014
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CherryBlossom
3408 posts

Topic: Industry watch / !!!!!!Bargain Alert!!!!!

MYER online has Free Delivery TODAY only.
No code and no minimum spend. Ends today Sunday Aug 31st 11:59pm AEST.

Aug 31, 2014
Pets-hamster-319
Cocoabutter
136 posts

Topic: Hair / Best Hair Oils?!

Loreal hair oils best treatments and come in three types for dry , fine and normal

I have the normal oil. ray_jay have you used the dry or fine oil?

Aug 30, 2014
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Lin294
5 posts

Topic: Hair / Best Hair Oils?!

I’m searching for a hair oil that will replenish and soften my ends (my conditioner isn’t enough!). I’ve tried Macadamia Natural Oil – Healing Oil Treatment which works divine, are there any suggestions? What do you use?!

You said you tried Moroccan oil – did you use the Argan Oil from Pro-Naturals.com? I use the entire Pro Naturals range and I love it. The Argan oil is a leave in product and certainly does not have a bad smell.

Aug 30, 2014
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Lin294
5 posts

Topic: Skincare / What are important ingredients in products to prevent fine lines and wrinkles?

Hi beauties

I have recently noticed some fine lines around my eyes when I smile and I am freaking out.
In the past I haven’t paid too much attention to ingredients in products but I want to start paying more attention to what I am putting on my face.
I want to know what ingredients I should be looking for in my eye cream and night cream to prevent fine lines and wrinkles for as long as possible.

Have a look at the ingredients of the range that I use – Monsia Advanced Skin Renewal System, here is the website link http://www.monsiaskincare.com/monsia-advanced-skin-renewal-system.html It works for me and I am over 60! No lines around eyes, no wrinkles across forehead, no crepey throat, going to start using the night cream on my hands as well.

Aug 30, 2014
Katseye
katshepsutt
7756 posts

Topic: Anything but beauty / Having A Birthday This Week? Post It Here And We'll Send A Cheer!!

Saturday the 30th of August is my 18th birthday, slowly becoming more excited. Finally legally an adult which will be exciting. I have a birthday party friday night with a photo booth and a bunch of friends and then clubbing on saturday.

Many Happy Returns Rachie, and congratulations hon! Hope your big day was a blast ♥

Aug 30, 2014
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CherryBlossom
3408 posts

Topic: Anything but beauty / Having A Birthday This Week? Post It Here And We'll Send A Cheer!!

☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆

H a P p Y B i R t H d A y Rachie!!!!!!!

Yeay. You’re 18!!!! how exciting!!!

Hope you are having a wonderful birthday celebration!!!!!

☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆•☆

Aug 30, 2014
Ganesh_image
misfortune8
330 posts

Topic: Help! I’ve got a beauty dilemma / Bollywood themed party ideas

So, I’ve been invited to a dress up party, and the theme is “fancy hipster bollywood”. What does that even MEAN? Anyway, from how I’ve interpreted it, I think I should dress up boho/bollywood chic.

Does anyone have any cute outfit, hair and makeup ideas? Right now I’m thinking: winged eyeliner, bold lip, bindi, headchain, heaps of bracelets, and an anklet. For shoes I’m gonna go with sandals, but I have absolutely no idea what clothes to wear. Maybe a maxi skirt and a crop top…

Help, please! :)

The traditional sari is just a long, long piece of fabric, usually in a bright colour & very difficult to wrap properly. Bollywood is so glam & very colourful – the Bollywood saris look to be more tailored.
Despite my avatar, I’m not Indian, but I looked at the website Chicklet mentioned – there’s some beauties there.

Aug 30, 2014
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Lin294
5 posts

Topic: Make-up / The girl who’s going a year without make-up

I stopped using makeup (apart from eyeliner and mascara) in 1988 when I returned to the UK from Saudi Arabia. I found that the pollution in the air combined with makeup was just not allowing my skin to breath. I washed my face with Johnson’s baby lotion and used Nivea moisturiser for a few years then started hunting for more sophisticated products and recently found Monsia’s Advanced Renewal System which suits me fine and I still don’t wear any makeup apart from Monsia’s day cream. I do not have any wrinkles on my brow, nor do I have any around my eyes or mouth. A little on my neck (because I have lost a little weight) but I am lathering it with the night repair cream which I am also using on my hands!

Aug 30, 2014
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Jessica601
1 post

Topic: Techie talk / 'My Favourites' in My Beautyheaven

I sure am glad I decided to search the site for how I am supposed to find the lists of items I have been saving to My Favourites! I am glad we can just manually type in the /favourites and it works!!! So, thank you to the ladies that posted that for the rest of us not-tech savvy individuals. Although, I feel that this is a terrible flaw in this website and I cannot believe that they cannot rectify the issue. Very disappointing.

Aug 30, 2014
Ganesh_image
misfortune8
330 posts

Topic: Make-up / Liptember

Have you guys tried any of the W7 liptember lippies? The colours are really cool, I really want to get my hands on the blue one. :) I just wanted to know if they are good or not.

I don’t know Ana160, I’ve been curious too.
They’re only $4.99 & the profit goes to charity, so I was going to pick up a purple or orange one. Your post made me remember that I was going to do it today when I was out – maybe tomorrow now.
I’ve got a W7 nail polish which is FANTASTIC! I haven’t used their makeup though. I know they’re at Chemist Warehouse, I don’t know if they’re anywhere else.

Aug 30, 2014
Katseye
katshepsutt
7756 posts

Topic: Industry watch / Just Blogged

Only one more day of winter gals – bronze & blue EOTD
http://katscolourings.blogspot.com.au/2014/08/eotd-mny-hyper-diamonds-bronze-and.html

That looks super stunning, Kats! :D I’ve been thinking of borrowing one of your eyeshadow looks to wear to my 2nd year optometry formal but there’s so many lovely ones that I can’t pick just one :P

Joole sweetie, borrow away – I’m so flattered you’re even thinking about it hon ♥ Have you chosen your outfit yet?

Aug 30, 2014
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Joole
189 posts

Topic: Industry watch / Just Blogged

Only one more day of winter gals – bronze & blue EOTD
http://katscolourings.blogspot.com.au/2014/08/eotd-mny-hyper-diamonds-bronze-and.html

That looks super stunning, Kats! :D I’ve been thinking of borrowing one of your eyeshadow looks to wear to my 2nd year optometry formal but there’s so many lovely ones that I can’t pick just one :P

Aug 30, 2014
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Joole
189 posts

Topic: Talkback / !! WARNING!!! HAUL:D

Yay! My first ever MAC order has arrived.
I got lipstick (Angel) and eyeshadows (All that glitters, naked lunch & satin taupe)

Oh Rose_P ur MAC haul looks wonderful! The eyeshadow colours look like u ordered them for me ;) I love them!! I must be the last beauty left to not have tried any MAC products!! Can you me me know ur thoughts on them please Rose? Would love to hear :)

I’m very happy with my purchase Growing Old. The Angel lipstick is such a gorgeous colour. Today I’m wearing the Naked Lunch eyeshadow on it’s own. Its great for a simple natural look, with a bit of eyeliner and mascara. There’s absolutely no fall out with these at all. I’m wearing them with Urban Decay eyeshadow primer potion underneath, and the colour lasts all day.
I’ve got the MAC bug now, and can’t wait to get more. My wish list….
Eyeshadows – Brule, Omega.
Lipsticks – Modesty, Sweetie, Lovelorn, Creme Cup.
Eyeliners – Duck, Teddy.
Blush – Tenderling.
I’m also tossing up whether to get the Prep & Prime pressed finishing powder. I’ve got Rimmel Stay Matte, and it works quite well, but it’s not handbag friendly, and the MAC one just looks so lovely.
Omgoshhh Rose_P I love Modesty! It’s my all-time favourite MLBB and I’ve worn it to almost halfway down the tube, which is a huge accomplishment for me :D Although Creme Cup is a different finish to Angel, they both look super similar on the lips so there’s a thought if you want to get something else on your wishlist first :P

Aug 30, 2014
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Lilyre1999
29 posts

Topic: beautorium — your feedback / Beautorium is coming!

When is the next Beautrium going to be??

Aug 30, 2014
Violet_butterfly
jatz
3268 posts

Topic: Anything but beauty / Having A Birthday This Week? Post It Here And We'll Send A Cheer!!

Oh No, have missed some birthdays and my apologies but I do have a good excuse @TPS, Linda & Taylor…….I am sure you all have fabulous birthdays and still celebrating :-) wish you all belated Birthday wishes.

Aug 30, 2014
Pets-hamster-319
Cocoabutter
136 posts

Topic: Skincare / Neutrogena Hydroboost Trial Team

How’s everyone going with the trial?

Aug 30, 2014
Violet_butterfly
jatz
3268 posts

Topic: Anything but beauty / Having A Birthday This Week? Post It Here And We'll Send A Cheer!!

WOW 18……Wishing you all the best for your birthday today Rachie……hope your having a beautiful day and had an even great Friday night with celebrations. Still have a month left of celebrating though :-)

Aug 30, 2014
White_flowers
Trish_D
3044 posts

Topic: Hair / Thinning Hair Dilemma

It’s been a while since I have been able to come to my favourite forum since moving place and being internetless for about two months but it’s good to be back! :)
It seems I’ve missed so much :(

Anyways, just reviving this topic for something I have been pondering over for a while.
As some of you may know I am on a mission to grow out my old hair colour and be au naturale again and so far I have had much success in growing out the old colour.

Since I last posted a picture of my hair in my “Treatment Results” topic (about two or three months ago) I have had about two hair cuts and it’s approximately two inches shorter than what it was in the pictures but I have about three or so inches of colour left in my hair… so I’m almost there!!

As my hair is mostly back to it’s natural state and the majority of it is ‘regrowth’ my hair feels much much thinner and less boofy/wavy. Which is sort of good because it means my hair is easier to maintain and care for and less likely for me to want to use heat on it, but on the other hand it just feels so thin compared to what it was like when I had it coloured.

Could it be that colouring my hair made it feel thicker and go wavy and that my natural hair is just thinner and has less body? I’m not sure if this makes sense but it’s the only reason I can think of as to why my hair looks and feels so different.

I am also finding that I have to use different sorts or S&C, such as needing to use cleansing ones more now instead of moisturising ones as my hair gets greasier quicker than it used to.
Phew. I think that’s all I needed to say haha

I missed you all!

We’ve missed you too, Kamillyon – so lovely to see you back. Hope the stress of moving has gone by now. I honestly don’t know but I do think you could be correct in thinking that the products that were used on your hair could have made your hair thicker.

Someone much more knowledgeable in this area might be able to help – but I wanted to say “Welcome back!”

Aug 30, 2014
Me
Kamillyon
287 posts

Topic: Hair / Thinning Hair Dilemma

It’s been a while since I have been able to come to my favourite forum since moving place and being internetless for about two months but it’s good to be back! :)
It seems I’ve missed so much :(

Anyways, just reviving this topic for something I have been pondering over for a while.
As some of you may know I am on a mission to grow out my old hair colour and be au naturale again and so far I have had much success in growing out the old colour.

Since I last posted a picture of my hair in my “Treatment Results” topic (about two or three months ago) I have had about two hair cuts and it’s approximately two inches shorter than what it was in the pictures but I have about three or so inches of colour left in my hair… so I’m almost there!!

As my hair is mostly back to it’s natural state and the majority of it is ‘regrowth’ my hair feels much much thinner and less boofy/wavy. Which is sort of good because it means my hair is easier to maintain and care for and less likely for me to want to use heat on it, but on the other hand it just feels so thin compared to what it was like when I had it coloured.

Could it be that colouring my hair made it feel thicker and go wavy and that my natural hair is just thinner and has less body? I’m not sure if this makes sense but it’s the only reason I can think of as to why my hair looks and feels so different.

I am also finding that I have to use different sorts or S&C, such as needing to use cleansing ones more now instead of moisturising ones as my hair gets greasier quicker than it used to.
Phew. I think that’s all I needed to say haha

I missed you all!

Aug 30, 2014
Pink-rose
Rose_P
2137 posts

Topic: Industry watch / NARS first boutique in Australia

Yes, and I doubt that Sephora will be stocking NARS in Australia.

I can’t see how they could, cos as far as I’m aware, Mecca has exclusive rights to Nars here in Australia. I think it’s the same with Too Faced, Smashbox and Stila too.

Aug 30, 2014
Pink-rose
Rose_P
2137 posts

Topic: Talkback / !! WARNING!!! HAUL:D

Yay! My first ever MAC order has arrived.
I got lipstick (Angel) and eyeshadows (All that glitters, naked lunch & satin taupe)

Oh Rose_P ur MAC haul looks wonderful! The eyeshadow colours look like u ordered them for me ;) I love them!! I must be the last beauty left to not have tried any MAC products!! Can you me me know ur thoughts on them please Rose? Would love to hear :)

I’m very happy with my purchase Growing Old. The Angel lipstick is such a gorgeous colour. Today I’m wearing the Naked Lunch eyeshadow on it’s own. Its great for a simple natural look, with a bit of eyeliner and mascara. There’s absolutely no fall out with these at all. I’m wearing them with Urban Decay eyeshadow primer potion underneath, and the colour lasts all day.
I’ve got the MAC bug now, and can’t wait to get more. My wish list….
Eyeshadows – Brule, Omega.
Lipsticks – Modesty, Sweetie, Lovelorn, Creme Cup.
Eyeliners – Duck, Teddy.
Blush – Tenderling.
I’m also tossing up whether to get the Prep & Prime pressed finishing powder. I’ve got Rimmel Stay Matte, and it works quite well, but it’s not handbag friendly, and the MAC one just looks so lovely.

Aug 30, 2014
Katseye
katshepsutt
7756 posts

Topic: Industry watch / Just Blogged

Only one more day of winter gals – bronze & blue EOTD
http://katscolourings.blogspot.com.au/2014/08/eotd-mny-hyper-diamonds-bronze-and.html

Aug 30, 2014
Image
Stay C
14273 posts

Topic: Talkback / BH Trial Team

Thanks beauties for your remedies, thoughts and wishes for my speedy healing. Thanks xxx
Yes it is very ouch! Must be the Retinol, I must give up on Retinol!

Oh dear Gofton I hope ur skin is starting to settle. I saw the first pic u posted but it’s really flared up since then. I was hoping to win one of these (!!) I don’t have any issues that I know of but I think if like a sample of this before buying it. I was hoping to read all wonderful reviews of this product. It’s great that we see the good and the bad side to some of these products. Anyway, I sure hope ur feeling better, and as already said..u would never look like the elephant man, ur a beautiful lady absolutely gorgeous xxxx

Growing Old I can be a little sensitive to some products, a bit of tingling/stinging sometimes but never anything like poor Gofton’s issues, and I’m having no problems, in fact I’m really liking the product.