HELP ME !!! Cant get him to shave that beard!

^^ Yes I’m sure having him wear a bracelet would distract totally from the unwanted beard! Spam. And you’re sprung.

Depending on the type of guy you’ve got and the beard – just get him to read this “OPEN LETTER TO BEARDED HIPSTERS” http://beardsy.com/archives/229 it may discourage some of your partners with beards from keeping them!

Whilst he will fanatically get rid of his bush, he refuses to shave his face. He only trims and i have no idea why he just wont shave his beard!

Its inconvenient , im not attracted to bearded men and he looks somewhat of a hobo with his two toned beard (black and brown hair) . Seriously i need advice , how can i trick him into shaving it off?

Iv already tried to talk to him. It doesn’t work.

Just tell him about how easy is to make beard nowadays with rechargeable trimmers like Nova NHT 1013 trimmer. Without any pain and easy to operate feature trimmers are worth buying.

I mean i always make an effort for him even after almost 4 years of being together. He likes me doing my eyeliner and makeup (i dont as much cuz it blocks my pores) , he likes a particular type of lingerie and pesters me to wear it for him regularly , shave my underarms all the time (it gets hard with a massive uni load) and my v area tooo. He wants me to dress up for him even if we’re just going to cook together at his place and get messed up anyway.

And then he refuses my ONE request . To shave. Im not trying to change him but i don’t ever mention to him how i put in an effort to make him happy and he doesn’t return the favour. its just sad so i was hoping for genuine methods to get him to just try once in a while as opposed to trick him into doing something he doesn’t want. And with the beard on he looks too much like his little brother with isnt exactly the best image when we’re doin it. lol

Why won’t he do one thing for you when you go out of your way to do several things for him? This is selfish. Don’t play ball if he won’t – then he might change his mind. Relationships are all about compromise. If one person is doing all the compromising, that is not a good scenario.

i know, thats why i was here for advice how to fix this 🙂

he likes a particular type of lingerie and pesters me to wear it for him regularly , shave my underarms all the time (it gets hard with a massive uni load) and my v area tooo.

I agree with saltine but when you said this ^^^
well that to me is a shitty double standard then,
would he be ‘disgusted’ if you were to go natural down there?
I know quite a few guys that actually will tell the girl to shave or wax or else he won’t touch her. yet they don’t themselves. its like what, you think we don’t mind having hair in our mouths but you do? LOL sorry Too much information!! but things like that piss me off.
and its like they don’t even think of the pain/time/money you have to go through to get bare? arrrgggh I’ll shut up now before I gross out anyone more 😛

He wouldn’t be repulsed but how can i put this appropriately , errr… no oral if its a little stubby . No i totally understand. so many times have i ended up with his parts in my mouth without complaining. its just unfair cuz it takes up so much time to clean up (and im not a naturally hair free gal, my hair are black and thick everywhere!)

Here’s an idea…have you tried pointing this out to him, in a rational conversation, when you’re both in a good mood? Explain that you put in so much effort for him, you feel a bit unhappy that he won’t do a little something back for you.

If you find it difficult to talk to him about it, have you thought about writing him a letter? It’s a good way to get your feelings across without feeling upset or getting too emotional. Or, maybe, you can try telling him how much more attractive you think he is when he’s clean shaved…and you just have the urge to cover him in kisses when he is. Maybe the way to his shaving is through his ego. 🙂

Personally, I would try being open and trying to communicate about it first…if that fails, then try the ‘passive aggressive’ method by refusing to shave a certain area until he does. Sometimes men do need to learn the ‘hard way’ unfortunately. 😛

Does he work full time? Because most men have to shave for work…if he’s still in uni, like you, he may well have to start shaving for when he starts work full time.

He works with his dad and he studies full time and after graduating he will just join into his home business (asian cultures are a bit like that, keeping the business in the family setup) so i doubt he will be forced to shave anytime soon by a requirement of profession . ill just have to trade my underarms for his beard.. lol

The thing about guys, ladies, is they are generally (not all, but generally) rather unthinking and don’t realise what they’re doing until someone points it out gently (or with a hammer, if necessary)…so your guy probably completely adores you, Kreety…but he’s probably just a bit obtuse.

Also, some guys happen to think that girls should always be feminine and hairfree (and do all the housework) while guys can be as scruffy as they like (while they sit on the couch and watch tv as their significant others hoover around them). 🙂

Wow, has this guy ever heard of compromising? -.- Good luck! 🙂

Thanks girls ! Loved your suggestions ! Mwah

Here’s an idea…have you tried pointing this out to him, in a rational conversation, when you’re both in a good mood? Explain that you put in so much effort for him, you feel a bit unhappy that he won’t do a little something back for you.

If you find it difficult to talk to him about it, have you thought about writing him a letter? It’s a good way to get your feelings across without feeling upset or getting too emotional. Or, maybe, you can try telling him how much more attractive you think he is when he’s clean shaved…and you just have the urge to cover him in kisses when he is. Maybe the way to his shaving is through his ego. 🙂

Personally, I would try being open and trying to communicate about it first…if that fails, then try the ‘passive aggressive’ method by refusing to shave a certain area until he does. Sometimes men do need to learn the ‘hard way’ unfortunately. 😛

Does he work full time? Because most men have to shave for work…if he’s still in uni, like you, he may well have to start shaving for when he starts work full time.