Finding Satisfaction in Being Single

I guess if you want to do somethinig it’s up to you right?
Haha I keep telling myself this, as my job kinda sucks (but my coworkers are cool) and whenever I start moping about how I hate it I tell myself, “ok, then go home and write that novel! The sooner you can publish the sooner you can start making enough money to quit”… lol big dreams though.
Yeah, I know there are lots of people who would say stuff like how I”m lucky my parents care at all, and such. I suppose the grass is always greener on the other side.

Ah, now I feel selfish……
I’m not at all a “beauty guru” though I’ve never bought eyelines or any eye make up besides mascara!! Only own one bronzer which a friend had me buy which I never had the confidence to put on myself 🙁
Lol I just feel like I don’t have a whole lot of advice to give. Besides hair advice, could definitely give hair advice.
It’s also not just the exchange program but also that after that I want to transfer schools to go to Scotland. And I know I won’t want to if I have a guy here.
I’m sorry I feel like I just keep complaining about my life but I feel like I have no one to talk to anymore my friends are all busy and I’ve lost 2 friends in the past year anyways. It just sucks because I never saw myself in this place, living at home, no social life, working all the time, broken up w/ a guy who I saw a future with, so dependent on my parents, still feeling like a child even though I will be 20 in September! And I won’t even be a teen but I’ll still be living at home, eating dinner with my family every night, never going out because I can’t really, feeling like a kid every time I’m around my parents, my dad loves to tell me how I should be more mature how he has to treat me like a child I can’t do anything.

Neither am I – I’m hopeless at applying eyeliner & wouldn’t have a clue about using one. Also not good at doing a multiple eyeshadow look either, but I am still learning there. Don’t do bronzer, don’t do highlighting or contouring….hell, I consider myself a makeup novice in general, but half the fun is in picking up tips from people & learning how to do it yourself I guess. That’s the beauty of this site. :o) The only things I can really give any sort of advice on is skin care & nail polish I suppose – I’m not good at doing things with my hair either!

I wouldn’t worry too much about living at home at your age Hell, I’m 30 in September and I still live at home! (Oh the shame of it all…) I wish I had my own place and I wish a whole lot of other things were in place too, but there’s not much point in wishing my life away and luckily my parents are ok with me living at home. As Imi said, consider yourself lucky that you even have a roof over your head at all, as much as living with your parents may “suck”, for a lack of a better term.

Ah, now I feel selfish……
I’m not at all a “beauty guru” though I’ve never bought eyelines or any eye make up besides mascara!! Only own one bronzer which a friend had me buy which I never had the confidence to put on myself 🙁
Lol I just feel like I don’t have a whole lot of advice to give. Besides hair advice, could definitely give hair advice.
It’s also not just the exchange program but also that after that I want to transfer schools to go to Scotland. And I know I won’t want to if I have a guy here.
I’m sorry I feel like I just keep complaining about my life but I feel like I have no one to talk to anymore my friends are all busy and I’ve lost 2 friends in the past year anyways. It just sucks because I never saw myself in this place, living at home, no social life, working all the time, broken up w/ a guy who I saw a future with, so dependent on my parents, still feeling like a child even though I will be 20 in September! And I won’t even be a teen but I’ll still be living at home, eating dinner with my family every night, never going out because I can’t really, feeling like a kid every time I’m around my parents, my dad loves to tell me how I should be more mature how he has to treat me like a child I can’t do anything.

You don’t need to be a beauty guru, the idea of this site is to learn from others.

I’m nearly 25 I still live at home, I did move out when I was 18 and hated it. I hardly go out but that’s because I have been saving my money, because I set myself a goal to own a home by the time i’m 25, and i’m currently in the process of building a house.

I have a boyfriend, but i’m doing all of this without him because it was a goal I set for myself. So if you want to go to Scotland or go on your exchange program, then set yourself that goal and don’t let anything get in your way.

There’s always someone doing it harder than you are, consider yourself lucky that your parents are still happy to have you at home and support you.

Hi Danniro. Please don’t take this the wrong way, but you seem to be to be a little caught up in yourself. I understand that at your age this is fairly normal, and I’m the first to admit that was a bit like that too at your age…boys were the be all and end all when I was at university and I was all “me me me”. I see you create a lot of topics relating to your personal life and rarely see any comments from you in other forum topics offering help/advice to other BH members. For instance, I’m sure other BH members would be really interested (as you’re obviously from the US) in hearing about your latest beauty buys and the places you like to shop for beauty products etc.

I suppose what I’m trying to say is that the best way to stop yourself from navel gazing and overthinking things is to take an interest in other people and subjects. That way, you will forget yourself and things in life will happen when they are supposed to. I’m sure you’re a lovely girl Danniro and I offer this advice as an older person in a positive way, not as an insult x

Cat lover, you are a true gem. Well done, Hun – as always.

Ah, now I feel selfish……
I’m not at all a “beauty guru” though I’ve never bought eyelines or any eye make up besides mascara!! Only own one bronzer which a friend had me buy which I never had the confidence to put on myself 🙁
Lol I just feel like I don’t have a whole lot of advice to give. Besides hair advice, could definitely give hair advice.
It’s also not just the exchange program but also that after that I want to transfer schools to go to Scotland. And I know I won’t want to if I have a guy here.
I’m sorry I feel like I just keep complaining about my life but I feel like I have no one to talk to anymore my friends are all busy and I’ve lost 2 friends in the past year anyways. It just sucks because I never saw myself in this place, living at home, no social life, working all the time, broken up w/ a guy who I saw a future with, so dependent on my parents, still feeling like a child even though I will be 20 in September! And I won’t even be a teen but I’ll still be living at home, eating dinner with my family every night, never going out because I can’t really, feeling like a kid every time I’m around my parents, my dad loves to tell me how I should be more mature how he has to treat me like a child I can’t do anything.

Don’t beat yourself up about living at home at 19- that’s pretty normal! I moved out when I was 22, then moved back home after a while (I’m 24 and still at home!)- I’m building a house at the moment so I’ll be out in a few months. However, at 19 I do remember being a little worried about never meeting anyone/ worried about life. I promise you will meet someone. I think the key is to stop stressing and worrying so much about the future while you’re in your younger years- just as the other ladies have mentioned.

Try and find solice in some sort of hobby or if you like sport- join your local club which is a great way to be active, meet people, and be a part of the community (as Jessica712 suggested). Or volunteer maybe? Just some suggestions. Keep your chin up because its going to get better, everyone goes through crappy times but they ALWAYS have a way of working themselves out!

P.s I’m sure the forum would love to hear your hair advice! 🙂

Ah, now I feel selfish……
I’m not at all a “beauty guru” though I’ve never bought eyelines or any eye make up besides mascara!! Only own one bronzer which a friend had me buy which I never had the confidence to put on myself 🙁
Lol I just feel like I don’t have a whole lot of advice to give. Besides hair advice, could definitely give hair advice.
It’s also not just the exchange program but also that after that I want to transfer schools to go to Scotland. And I know I won’t want to if I have a guy here.
I’m sorry I feel like I just keep complaining about my life but I feel like I have no one to talk to anymore my friends are all busy and I’ve lost 2 friends in the past year anyways. It just sucks because I never saw myself in this place, living at home, no social life, working all the time, broken up w/ a guy who I saw a future with, so dependent on my parents, still feeling like a child even though I will be 20 in September! And I won’t even be a teen but I’ll still be living at home, eating dinner with my family every night, never going out because I can’t really, feeling like a kid every time I’m around my parents, my dad loves to tell me how I should be more mature how he has to treat me like a child I can’t do anything.

Try not to let it stress you out Danniro. I think it’s good you’re at least trying to talk about it and work towards being happier.
Like others, I suggest putting your energy towards new interests. Your exchange plan sounds like a great idea, I did one too and it was great. If you approach it with an open mind and happy attitude you will have a great time, so please do work towards doing an exchange.
Other than that just embrace life every day, say yes to invites with friends, take up new hobbies like a dance class, sport or something, even if it’s not something that you think you will be interested in. Who knows you could end up loving it and then before you know it you will be wondering why you were worried about being single, when there is so many other good things in your life.
Some days it won’t be easy, but just trying new things when you can is a really good first step.

Hi Danniro. Please don’t take this the wrong way, but you seem to be to be a little caught up in yourself. I understand that at your age this is fairly normal, and I’m the first to admit that was a bit like that too at your age…boys were the be all and end all when I was at university and I was all “me me me”. I see you create a lot of topics relating to your personal life and rarely see any comments from you in other forum topics offering help/advice to other BH members. For instance, I’m sure other BH members would be really interested (as you’re obviously from the US) in hearing about your latest beauty buys and the places you like to shop for beauty products etc.

I suppose what I’m trying to say is that the best way to stop yourself from navel gazing and overthinking things is to take an interest in other people and subjects. That way, you will forget yourself and things in life will happen when they are supposed to. I’m sure you’re a lovely girl Danniro and I offer this advice as an older person in a positive way, not as an insult x

Well said cat lover.

I also agree with Imi re: the luck thing + focusing on the exchange program. Getting too wrapped up in one thing or person is bound to cause headaches, worry and trouble, believe me.

Hi Danniro. Please don’t take this the wrong way, but you seem to be to be a little caught up in yourself. I understand that at your age this is fairly normal, and I’m the first to admit that was a bit like that too at your age…boys were the be all and end all when I was at university and I was all “me me me”. I see you create a lot of topics relating to your personal life and rarely see any comments from you in other forum topics offering help/advice to other BH members. For instance, I’m sure other BH members would be really interested (as you’re obviously from the US) in hearing about your latest beauty buys and the places you like to shop for beauty products etc.

I suppose what I’m trying to say is that the best way to stop yourself from navel gazing and overthinking things is to take an interest in other people and subjects. That way, you will forget yourself and things in life will happen when they are supposed to. I’m sure you’re a lovely girl Danniro and I offer this advice as an older person in a positive way, not as an insult x

I think this is really nicely put, cat lover.

The beauty of BH is that you can get away from the everyday ‘blah’ by coming here and talking about beauty, cosmetics, gossip, sales, nails and more beauty!

Also Danniro, you get Sephora and all those goodies that we don’t get (yet) in Australia… I’m sure being a part of this forum you’re obsessed with all things beauty too.. We’d love to see your hauls and hear about the great sales and stores near you.

I guess it would be good to talk to someone who’s not a friend, who doesn’t know me but knows people like me….
I know I so young etc. lol. But part of me feels like my time is running out! I wanna have that great relationship and still be young, not 35 or 40… And honestly if I’ve had no success so far, why should I in the future? Guys always seem to get tired of me… there’s always someone better.
Maybe I’ll go down to the counseling center at my uni this week though. I’m a little turned off to counselors because when I saw one earlier this year at my old uni I poured out everything to this guy (counselor) burst into tears talking about a painful experience with a friend that has made it hard to trust people and he just asked questions and took notes, never comforted me or gave feedback. Then he shook my hand and told me he thought he could help or something told me to make an appointment but I was thinking f*** that lol

I don’t think counsellors are always there to provide feedback or support to you, I think they are just there for you to spill your beans and have someone to talk to, I don’t really know as I haven’t been to one.

But I do get concerned about all the topics you create about your life’s difficulties, you’re only 19. Even if you’re not having luck with relationships now, that doesn’t mean you’re going to continue to not have any luck. I think your exchange program would be great for you, it will give you something else to focus on. Can you bring it forward if you’re that concerned about meeting someone before you go? Lots of people I know who have gone on exchange have been in a relationship and it hasn’t been a problem.